The Beauty in Validation

Our Kids Crave Our Validation—Not Out of Fear, But Out of Love.

As parents, we’re more than just caregivers; we’re role models. Our kids look up to us, and they deeply value our opinions. When they seek our validation, it’s not because they fear us—it’s because they admire us.

I cannot count the amount of times my toddler has come up to me showing what he is doing or creating and seeking a response - and the way I respond translates into his self-esteem. I can see in that moment that I am his mirror!

Allow me to explain...

Think about those moments when your child comes home from school, beaming with pride, eager to show you a craft they made. In that moment, they want your attention, your praise, and your curiosity. So, if you have the opportunity, pause what you’re doing and truly see them. Ask about the colors they chose, what they created, and how long it took. Celebrate every little detail, because that confidence they feel—it’s fragile, and we want to help it grow strong and lasting.

And when your child accomplishes something that’s usually tough for them, like sharing, using kind words, or trying a new food, embrace that too. If they’re proud of themselves, let them see that you are just as proud. Talk about how hard it must have been and how amazing it is that they pushed through. Notice the things they notice, because that’s where their heart is. See? Mirroring!

And when they come to you, maybe with a bit of hesitation, to share something they did, said, or created, remember: this is your moment to lift them up. This is your chance to boost their self-esteem and give them even more reasons to feel proud of who they are.

You are your child’s biggest cheerleader, and together, you can celebrate all the wonderful things they do. Powerful stuff.